I’m Violet Fawkes, and my mission as a pleasure educator is to support your journey of sexual self-discovery. I create sex-positive resources to help you explore, empower, and enrich your life with practical information, wisdom and self-love.
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There are five themes to help you navigate as you explore this site, and yourself: Being Sexy, Being Kinky, Being Playful, Being Intimate, and Being Whole. Each section is an ever-growing archive of information meant to support, inspire, and inform you.
Being Sexy
What does it mean to be sexy, and why do we care so much? If you want to explore beauty standards, body politics, and living your sexuality authentically, then you’re in the right place!
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Being Kinky
Curious about kink but don’t know where to start? Learn the lingo, get tips for safely navigating a scene, or find a helpful how-to guide. It’s all here for you to explore!
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Being Playful
Want to get serious about the fun side of sex? Dive into the world of sex toys and pleasure products to enrich and expand your definitions of pleasure.
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Being Intimate
No relationship is one-size-fits-all, but this is never more true than when Relationship Anarchy is at play. Learn more about the empowering ways people are expanding their connections and finding new ways to love.
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Being Whole
Isn’t it time you fell in love with yourself? Explore your relationship with yourself and your sexuality with self-affirming exercises, tips for self-advocacy and healing, and further resources for sexual health and wellness.
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Recent Posts
What Is Submission in BDSM?
Submission is often misunderstood. Do you know the basics of BDSM Submission?
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Inclusive Language – How To
Language is a habitual skill, which means it can seem challenging to change or adapt how you speak and the terms you use. Luckily, all it takes is a bit of effort and consistency!
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Kinky Horoscopes for May
It's not Mercury Retrograde ... this time!
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Body Count – Why is it problematic?
Let's talk about the term "body count" and why it's so problematic.
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Which cums first, the feather or the chicken?
“Erotic is using a feather, kinky is using the whole chicken.” ...
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How To Discuss The Possibility Of A Threesome With Your Partner
This is a sponsored post by Erobella. As a sex+ platform, Erobella champions the welfare, autonomy, and security of sex workers by advocating for their acceptance and de-stigmatisation in society and politics, throughout Europe and beyond.
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